What Does Shameka Really Mean?

The Single Woman's 30-Day Blogging Challenge: Day 10

Google the meaning of your name and talk about how it fits or doesn’t fit you

**I never completed the Single Woman Blog Challenge since going on this unexpected hiatus. I will complete it starting where I left off... 

So I googled the meaning of Shameka, and this is what I found. Randomly known fact: Shameka was most popular in the year 1980. Makes sense as I was born in 1980. Anywho, I won't get into just how rude and insensitive urbandictionary.com is in regard to the meaning of my name. I won't even share their definition. I then found this site www.kabalarians.com that lists the meaning of my name as (I've added my thoughts to each point):

• The name of Shameka creates a very quiet, practical nature and a clever and inventive mind.  - Yes, very practical and inventive
   
• Being analytical and naturally studious, you are interested in a factual understanding of the mysteries of life. - Black and white, no time for gray
   
• Your methodical nature requires that you like to finish what you start without interruptions and also to have everything in its place and properly organized. - ummmm....I'm too ADD to finish what I start
   
• An ability to concentrate could take you into computer programming or accountancy or any work requiring concentration and attention to detail. - Again, what does concentrate mean because I have no idea how to do it, lol
   
• You have, also, a flair for creative expression with your hands. - with my hands? I doodle and that's about it
   
• You take life seriously and can be easily and deeply hurt and go into moods which can be quite extreme at times, causing much turmoil and unhappiness. - This can't be any more true! My heart is worn on my sleeve.
   
• Finding it difficult to join in conversation with those with whom you are not well-acquainted, you could feel quite alone and uncommunicative with new acquaintances or in a large crowd. - Yep
   
• As a result, you could be accused of being unfriendly. - How did you know?! People always read me incorrectly at first
   
• You desire so much to be understood, but your name has limited your verbal expression to such an extent that it is very difficult for you to divulge your innermost thoughts even to those closest to you. - LOL!
   
• One of your greatest salvations is being out in nature, for it is there that you find the peace and serenity you so much desire. - Not sure if I believe you on this one. I'll take indoors over outdoors at all times
   
• Physically you could suffer through tension in the heart, lungs, or bronchial organs, and also through intestinal problems, constipation, etc. - Uh oh. I do have asthma. Constipation, though?

Let me know what you think.

What's Done in the Dark....

The Single Woman's 30-Day Blogging Challenge: Day 9

Your favorite “weird/funny single behavior”
(Anything you do that is uniquely YOU and that living alone allows you to do)

My weird behavior is that I not only memorize, repeat, and even dance to my fav commercials. Yea, living by myself allows me to become a little too excited when they come on. 

Here's what I mean. See the GEICO commercial below?  Well it uses the same music from the "Dirty Dancing" movie (actually from one of my favorite parts). If this commercial comes on, you'll find me mimicking the moves of Jennifer Grey (female star of the movie). And it's so obvious that this movie has nothing to do with that movie or dancing. 

Same thing with the following commercial. Although, I'm sure that many people get extra excited when these commercials come on. Right?!

BONUS: Do you remember those TIME CD collection commercials that used to come on late night? They usually last an hour or so with some "has been" actor/singer trying to tempt you to spend your good money to buy the CD with an extra $5.95 going to processing and handling. My thing was to sing along to the excerpts whether it was my style of song or not. Remember the ones that included The Beach Boys and all those old groups? I sang along to those, too!

Being single and living by myself allows me the freedom to get down......to these commercials. LOL!

Don't judge me! :-)

The one thing I'd risk going to jail for...

The Single Woman's 30-Day Blogging Challenge: Day 8 

What are the five things that are most important to you in a future mate?

1. God-fearing - I need someone that loves God. Point blank. Period. If we're both working in tandem towards God's plan for each of us as well as collectively, then we're only moving closer as a couple. There's something sexy about a man taking on the role of being the head of a family and praying consistently for his love and his family. Turn on, definitely. ;-)

2. Intelligent - I recently had a couple of dates with a Puerto Rican cutie. His best features were his eyes, skin, and teeth, i.e. damn near everything. He even had Brooklyn swag about himself and he was so gentle with me. Problem, you ask? He seemed dumb as a box of rocks. He couldn't hold a conversation about issues important in the world today. Turn off. I need someone that will challenge my thinking and engross me in intriguing conversations. Furthermore, I don't like to lead all of our conversations as well. Another turn off.

3. Sense of Humor - I love to laugh! A lot! I have my own sarcastic sense of humor and would love to be with a guy that has his own sense of wit. It's an absolute turn on. I was with one guy where darn near everything he said was funny and it just felt good to be around him. I guess when you're laughing, you're constantly smiling and that means you must be happy and that's the goal in life right? To be happy. So if a man can put a smile on my face constantly, he's a keeper. 

4. Romantic - OK! Sweep me off my feet please. Surprise me here and there. Keep me guessing. The sweet gestures keep a relationship going. Flowers just because. A sweet note to say I love you hidden in your purse. A good morning text. Two of my past boos used to send me "good morning" texts every morning. Started my morning with a smile each time I received those texts. I have a guy friend who actually bought a book titled "1001 Ways to be Romantic". He actually would refer to the book here and there to do things for his girl. One of the items called for him to send his girl's mom flowers to thank her for bringing his girlfriend into the world. Ummm, yea, I'll need my future boo to live up to those standards. 

5. Loyal - There are a lot of things that I don't have time for and being cheated on is one of them. Let me give you a little backstory. I'm deathly afraid of jail. When I was attending UCF, my younger sister stayed with me for a bit in my apartment. One day I came home to find her and a sheriff's deputy there in the apartment. He told me that there was a warrant out for my arrest. As I stood there with a McDonald's breakfast in my hand, I contemplated my options as jail was not one of them. There was a 6 lane highway right outside my apartment. My thought - drop the food and run into traffic. I was not going to jail! Anywho, the second before I dropped the bag of food, he told me that he was a cousin of mine. They got a few chuckles in; not me, I was hella scared. I say all of that to say that while I'm deathly afraid of jail, I can see myself going there because a man has cheated on me and we are supposed to be in a committed relationship. Just call med Lorena Bobbitt, Jr. cause his penis has got to go after that! Just kidding....not really. Seriously speaking, trust is very big to me, and my future boo must be worthy of mine.

Where You Are In Your Life vs. Where You Thought You Would Be At This Point

The Single Woman's 30-Day Blogging Challenge: Day 7

 

I think it is every little girl's dream to grow up, get married, and have children. Well, my dreams for myself were similar with career thrown in there. I wanted to go to college, get married, and become a superstar; I wanted to see my name in lights. I don't mean superstar in terms of acting, singing, or dancing (which is good because I'm not good at any one of those things). I mean superstar as in I wanted to be remembered for doing good while here on this earth in whatever I ended up doing as a career.My career path changed a lot. At one point, I wanted to be a cosmetologist (this was serious), accountant, social worker, etc.

At 33 years of age, I look back and realize that I've only succeeded in going to college. I've yet to snag the man and see my name in lights. While snagging the man is out of my control, I'm working to become that superstar and see my name in lights. It took a while for me to determine just what I'm passionate about. Now that I've finally figured it out, it's time for me to knock down some doors in which opportunity stands behind. That's my focus right now. It's going to happen.
 

“Every woman has the exact love life she wants”

The Single Woman's 30-Day Blogging Challenge: Day 6 

 

Sound off on the quote “Every woman has the exact love life she wants”

 

Uh, no. Um, hello, I'm blogging to complete a Single Woman's challenge. Although I'm content (for now), this is not my destiny.  As of right now, I don't have the love life that I want.

Furthermore, there are MANY other women who are not experiencing the love life they want either. For instance, I previously discussed women staying in relationships that they knew were toxic only because they do not want to be alone. There are women who are settling for less because they feel that's the best they can do for themselves. That doesn't mean it's what they want; hell, it's probably opposite of what they want.

So, no. Every woman DOES NOT HAVE the exact love life she wants.

A Gift and a Curse

The Single Woman's 30-Day Blogging Challenge: Day 5

What is the biggest misconception you think people have about single life?

Most people think that having no one is a curse, lonely, and no fun. That is why a lot of people choose to stay in relationships that do nothing but stress them out. Well, that's untrue. As a single woman, I have time to do the things I want to do when I want to do them how I want to do them. The biggest benefit is not having to answer to anyone. (I guess this is where independence is most valued.) Many people complain about not having their own space when in relationships. Well, I have that. I come and go as I please. I have time to accomplish the things that need to be done.

Recently, I was at dinner reconnecting with a friend. At the end of the evening I said, "Well, I have a lot of work to do, so I have to head home." The friend says, "That's why you don't have a man. If you did, you'd be worried about taking care of him and his needs and not getting your work done that is going to take you to another level in life." His words hit me like a ton of bricks. Right now I'm working towards a higher purpose and it'd be just a distraction. Don't get me wrong, having a man and accomplishing career goals are not mutually exclusive; you can have both. However, maybe right now I don't need distractions. 

I'm working towards a bigger goal right now. Although it'd be nice to have support through this time, it's not necessary. 

My biggest fear...

...as a single person

The Single Woman's 30-Day Blogging Challenge: Day 1

  

Isn't it obvious?! Let me put it this way, I always say to my friends, "God has a sense of humor that I don't always find funny. I don't want to find my Mr. Right when I'm 40 years old or even not at all." That's my biggest fear as a single person. My second biggest fear is ending up with Mr. Wrong just because I'm tired of waiting. I've seen those couples in which one spouse is totally disrespectful to the other or they spend all of their time arguing. Ain't nobody got time for that! So I'll just continue to wait for my intended boo, whoever he may be.